I started this Blog because I wanted to share with others how they could stand in the face of fear and succeed. But as I sit here this morning, I’m reminded that there are so many types of fear and that my perspective is just one little facet of a multi-dimensional emotion. Fear. What is it really? Some say it’s nothing more than a feeling. I’ve heard it described as an uncontrollable response or reaction to a threatening circumstance. But we use it so broadly. I know that I do. In my case…I would say that the majority of my “fear” is nothing more than insecurity. So I want to expand a little on that side of fear…because that is where so many of us are. We are insecure. Have you ever asked yourself why? I have. What makes me afraid to walk into a room late…after the speaker is standing up front. What makes me afraid of stepping out of a long line to see why we are all in it? Why don’t I want to walk up to the front or side…to see if there is another way into the room? Why am I afraid to raise my hand and ask a question? Why do I constantly question if I’ve done the right thing…or said the right thing…or asked the right thing? Well, I don’t know all the reasons why people are the way we are, but I know that we are all created differently and that we all have our strengths and weaknesses. So, my personality type is just that. It’s my “bent”…my way of being…my “default” so to speak. Lots of tests and quizzes are out there to find out what “type” you are. I have been “diagnosed” as an “ESFJ”…a “sanguine”…an “ISC”…there was even an animal type quiz I took and it said I was a golden retriever! Oh well…whatever my label, I know that I am who I am and I need to focus on my strengths and not my weaknesses. There comes that word “focus” again. If I focus on my weaknesses all the time…then NO WONDER I am insecure! Isn’t that true for you too? If I’m thinking about what I’m not good at…all the time…then of course I will be insecure. If, on the other hand, I can focus on what I’m doing well…my strengths…my talents…then I will grow more and more confident. As confidence grows, so does opportunity. If you can confidently “step out of line” and walk up to the front…you may just find there is another line with no one standing in it. You may find another door that no one was brave enough to try and open. You may find an opportunity just waiting for someone to grab it. You may find that when you look behind you…a crowd has gathered because you were brave enough to lead.
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Simple thoughts from one agent to another. This Blog is written to encourage others through the mental challenge of facing fear, doubt and insecurity. I hope it's helpful to you. If it is..please leave a comment. I'd love to journey together~Nancy
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I like to think about what one true contribution in life is and that is I think to create a pleasant atmosphere. When I have to cold call someone or approach someone I don’t know, I go into it with the thought that I am here to 1) contribute to a light-hearted, pleasant atmosphere and 2) to possibly make a connection with someone and provide value to them. When I approach in this way, I am staying out of my head and coming from a giving place. Realizing that everyone however rude is doing what is right, proper and justified based on past experience, I stay out of their heads, and look to provide the two things above. That helps me, maybe it helps you too.
What a great point…to stay out of other people’s heads too! You are right…it’s easy to assume, which actually has no basis or foundation in truth. Thank you for your comments.